The Culture and Traditions of Vietnam

Vietnam has one of the richest, most traditional cultures in Southeast Asia. Whether you’re in the 1,000-year-old capital city of Hanoi, the bustling metropolis of Ho Chi Minh City or in one of the many hamlets, towns and villages throughout the country, you’ll find yourself immersed in ancient traditions, ceremonies and rituals.

The most important tenet of Vietnamese culture is family. Households commonly consist of three or more generations living under the same roof. The man is the head of the family, making most of the important decisions and ensuring that the family has food, shelter and clothing. The woman’s job is primarily that of raising the children and making sure they are safe, well-fed and nurtured and that they excel in their studies. Many Vietnamese women earn money for the family.

Education is highly respected and it is every family’s expectation that their children study hard and excel in their schooling. This stems from the teachings of Confucius, the Chinese scholar whose influence brought standardised education to Vietnam more than 2,500 years ago.

Confucius has also shaped Vietnamese society in other ways. The concepts of filial piety, duty, honesty, seniority and respect for elders are as important today as they were more than two millennia ago. Elders command great respect, students revere their teachers and respectful obedience to one’s parents is expected.

Ancestor worship is widely practiced, with elaborate rites and ceremonies to honour family members dating back nine generations. Solemn holidays, such as the Hungry Ghost Festival, are times when families pray to their ancestors, offer them traditional foods and wine and burn paper offerings of money, cars and other material goods for their ghosts to use in the spirit world. When a person dies, funeral rites are observed throughout the first year and each year during Tết (the Lunar New Year).

Buddhism is widely practiced throughout Vietnam and there is a large Christian minority as well, especially in the southern part of the country. Other religions include Daoism and animism, mainly in the north and Cao Dai and Islam in the south.

Culture and Traditions of Vietnam

Customs

The concept of “face” is important to citizens of many Asian nations and Vietnam is no exception. It’s important to be aware of face, which reflects a person’s integrity, prestige and dignity.

A person would lose face by showing anger, while sincere compliments to another would give that person face. Admitting a mistake gracefully is a way of saving face.

When someone loses face, others may feel shame or embarrassment for them, resulting in a loss for both individuals.

Collectivism

The concept of the individual is less meaningful in Vietnam than in Western countries. The Vietnamese see themselves as part of a larger group that includes family, community and country.

This is reflected in the many terms of address. Rather than using names, people most often refer to others in terms of relationship. An older person or one of higher status may be referred to as older brother or uncle (anh) or older sister or aunt (chị) and grandfather (ông) or grandmother (). A younger person, regardless of gender, is often addressed as “em”, meaning someone younger or of lower status than the speaker, while those young enough to be grandchildren are called “cháu”. One need not be a blood relative to be referred to in this way. The words “I” or “me” are rarely used.

Small towns and villages are often communal in nature. Festivals involve everyone in the town and all who are physically able help with the annual planting and autumn harvest.

When a foreigner is accepted into a family, whether by marriage or by friendship, they become part of a much larger social circle. Their attendance at important family and village events is expected and the cultural experiences are intensely rewarding.

Culture and Traditions of Vietnam

Relationships

Relationships are of primary importance in Vietnam. They determine how business transactions are made and how friendships are established. When making a purchase, it is polite to make a little small-talk first. Having a Vietnamese friend to help smooth the way can make life much easier and knowing even a few words of Vietnamese will earn approval and acceptance.

Do’s and Don’ts of Vietnamese Etiquette

  • It is common to see two friends of the same sex holding hands, but avoid public displays of affection with members of the opposite sex.
  • Don’t cross your fingers for luck; this is considered an obscene gesture in Vietnam.
  • Pass items using both hands.
  • Don’t point your finger; gesture with your hand instead.
  • Don’t touch someone’s head.
  • Remove your shoes before entering someone’s home; shoes are commonly removed before entering small businesses, too.

Culture and Traditions of Vietnam

Temple Etiquette

  • Do take off your hat and shoes before entering a temple.
  • Dress modestly; shoulders should be covered, no shorts and no bare midriffs.
  • Don’t turn your back to a Buddha statue or image.
  • Don’t smoke.
  • Ask before taking photographs.

Eating and Socialising

  • When invited into someone’s home, bring fruits, sweets or flowers, but avoid giving four of anything, as that number is considered unlucky. Wine, spirits and beer are also generally considered welcome gifts.
  • The Vietnamese use chopsticks to eat. A flat spoon, used for soups and broths, is also common.
  • Chopsticks may be laid across the top of a bowl or on the table, but never placed point-down in the bowl.

Culture and Traditions of Vietnam

  • Meals are served family-style and often include several meat and fish dishes, vegetables, rice or noodles and clear soup to finish. Plates are rarely used; instead, rice is placed in the bowl, with meat, fish and vegetables served atop the rice.
  • If serving spoons are not provided, use the top of your chopsticks to take food from the communal serving dishes.
  • The oldest person at the table sits first, initiates the meal and is offered the choicest portions.
  • It is polite to try to finish everything in your bowl.
  • Toothpicks are usually provided after the meal. Cover your mouth when using one.
  • At restaurants, the bill is delivered only after everyone has finished eating and drinking and the head of the table has requested it.
  • When possible, try to personally hand your money to the serving staff or cashier.
  • Separate bills are not part of the Vietnamese dining culture; an offer to share the cost of a meal can be made after leaving the restaurant.
  • Tipping is not generally required, though it is always appreciated. Rounding up the bill or tipping around 10% is common. Some restaurants include a 15% service charge; in this case, tipping is not expected.

Drinking and Nightlife

Culture and Traditions of Vietnam

Beer and shots of rice wine or spirits are often served with a meal and are consumed well into the evening. There is often a toast given prior to each drink. This ritual is continued throughout the evening until the drinking is finished. Food always accompanies a drinking session.

The Vietnamese love going out for karaoke. Singing isn’t required but is welcomed. Karaoke may be included in business meetings as well as socially.

Business Customs and Etiquette

  • Business cards are often exchanged and are given using both hands. It is rare for a Vietnamese businessperson to not carry a card.
  • When given a business card, look at it respectfully and place it in your wallet or purse.
  • The Vietnamese tend to be punctual. Being late for a meeting would cause loss of face.
  • Among men handshakes are used when arriving and departing from a business meeting.
  • Vietnamese women may not offer their hand for a handshake, especially to a male. If this is the case, a slight, respectful bow is appropriate.
  • Making smalltalk or having a drink first is a way to form relationships—essential to conduct business in Vietnam.
  • Avoid confrontation; silence is preferred to open disagreement, which would cause a loss of face.
  • Many Vietnamese will avoid direct eye contact when being spoken to; this is not a sign of disrespect or disinterest, but is done to be deferential to the speaker.

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