Dyan deNapoli was five years old when her parents took her to an aquarium in Florida. She was so mesmerized by the relationship between the handlers and the dolphins that her parents had to pull her away. Despite fears that she wasn't "smart enough" to handle the rigorous math and science courses, Dyan took a degree in animal science and was hired by the New England Aquarium in Boston as their Senior Penguin Aquarist. One of the highlights of her career was working as part of a team that rescued 40,000 penguins from an oil spill in South Africa.
If you've made up your mind to live the international lifestyle—and even done your homework—but you're still afraid to actually take the leap, I have good news for you. The fact that you're scared means that somewhere inside of you, you believe it's actually possible to do the thing you want to do. That alone is huge. Think about it. If you didn't think it was possible you'd never even get to fear. When you allow yourself to get to the fear stage, you're one step closer to achieving your dream.
Here's a novel idea: What if parents, guidance counselors, and college career advisors had focused less on what you wanted to be when you grew up and spent more time helping you decide how you wanted to feel when you grow up? I call it the Life First – Work Second approach to career planning. It's why I begin every business idea generation session with the same simple question: What do you want your life to look like?
As my nephew Jason prepared to begin his first year of college, his thoughts naturally turned to potential careers. "What would you really love to do?" I asked. Jason thought for a moment before replying, "I'd just like to get a job I don't hate too much." After a little auntie-to-nephew pep talk about the importance of shooting higher than "one notch above misery," we talked about his love of baseball.
There's an old joke about the tourist who gets lost on the back roads of Maine. He comes across an old farmer and asks, "Do you know how to get to Portland?" After a long pause, the farmer replies, "E-yup. But you can't get there from here. The farmer's nonsensical response offers an important lesson to those who wish to live life on purpose...work at what they love...and follow their own road. I spent seven years commuting 90 miles a day to a management job in a large corporation.
For seven years, I commuted 90 miles a day to my job in a Fortune 200 company. It was a great company, with great co-workers, and a really great salary to boot. There was just one problem. I was miserable. But with a mortgage and a car payment...well, you know how it is. Then July 31, 1993 I got the worst news of my life. That's the day my mother died unexpectedly of a heart attack. She was only 61 and just five months shy of her much-awaited retirement.